Peak Performance

When we work with our clients we look at creating new brain patterns that enable the person to perform at their peak.

What you don’t realise is that the stories you tell yourself, and you are telling yourself over and over again, on a daily basis. This sets up your operating system for beliefs and your ability to react, plan and your behaviour patterns (your habits).

If something is not working, it is most like the story you are telling yourself. Check it, catch it.

Some of your conversations are inherited –

“if you want something done then…”
“If I am good then I can be bad”
“I will start tomorrow”
“I can’t…”

I am sure you can fill in the blanks.

Things that you can do to improve how you react, plan, and behave are:

Notice when you are using inherited/cultural language when you share about you to others.

Inherited language is the sayings we repeat from our parents. It's the culture and identity of how you were taught.


It really is what others have a habit of passing down without thinking about the unconscious effect of learning.

If you notice that you're using language that is inherited, you can try to actively broaden your positive vocabulary and expose yourself to a variety of perspectives to reduce the influence of inherited language. 

Pick up the meaning of the story you tell yourself

The "story you tell yourself" refers to the narrative that an individual creates in their mind about their experiences, beliefs, values, and identity.

This internal story often influences an individual's thoughts, emotions, and behaviour.


By picking up the meaning of the story you tell yourself, you can gain insight into your underlying beliefs and patterns of thinking, and work to change negative or limiting narratives that may be holding you back. 

This can involve becoming aware of negative self-talk, examining the evidence for and against your beliefs, and seeking out alternative perspectives. In this way, you can develop a more empowering and positive narrative that supports your growth and well-being.

Change the narrative to be what you want

Yes, you can change the narrative you tell yourself to align with what you want. To do this, you need to be intentional and proactive in your thinking. This can involve:

Becoming aware of your current narrative:

Pay attention to the thoughts and stories you tell yourself and identify any negative or limiting beliefs.

Challenging your beliefs: 

Question the evidence for and against your beliefs, and seek out alternative perspectives.

Reframing your thoughts: 

Replace negative self-talk with more positive and empowering narratives. Focus on what you want and believe you can achieve.

Practicing positive affirmations: 

Repeat positive statements and affirmations to yourself regularly to reinforce a positive narrative.

Surrounding yourself with positive influences: 

Seek out people, environments, and media that support and encourage a positive narrative.

By changing the narrative you tell yourself, you can develop a more positive and empowering self-image, increase your confidence and resilience, and achieve your goals and aspirations.

Use resourceful language

Using resourceful language refers to choosing words and phrases that are empowering, positive, and solution-focused. Resourceful language helps to reframe situations and challenges in a positive light and focuses on what is possible and achievable, rather than on what is wrong or lacking.

Some ways to use resourceful language include:

Avoid negative and limiting words: 

Instead of saying "I can't", say "I choose not to" or "I will find a way."

Focus on solutions: 

Instead of dwelling on problems, focus on what can be done to resolve the issue.

Use positive affirmations: 

Repeat positive statements and affirmations to yourself regularly to reinforce a positive narrative.

Describe events objectively: 

Instead of using emotionally charged language, describe events objectively, without judgement.

Speak kindly to yourself: 

Treat yourself with the same kindness and respect that you would offer to someone you care about.

By using resourceful language, you can change the way you think about yourself and your circumstances, and develop a more positive and empowering outlook.

Ask yourself the tough question you have been avoiding

Asking yourself tough questions can be a powerful tool for personal growth and self-discovery.

By confronting difficult topics and facing the fears or insecurities that may be holding you back, you can gain a deeper understanding of yourself and what you truly want.

Some tips for asking yourself the tough questions you've been avoiding include:

Create a safe and supportive environment:

Choose a quiet place where you can reflect and think without distractions.

Identify the question: 

Identify the specific question or topic that you have been avoiding and write it down.

Be honest with yourself: 

Allow yourself to be vulnerable and honest in your self-reflection, even if it is uncomfortable.

Listen to your intuition: 

Trust your gut feelings and allow yourself to be guided by your inner voice.

Seek support if needed:

If the questions you're asking are particularly challenging, consider seeking support from a trusted friend, family member, or therapist.

Asking yourself tough questions can be a powerful tool for personal growth and self-discovery, and can help you overcome obstacles, clarify your values and priorities, and pursue your goals with greater confidence and purpose.

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